Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Wedded Wednesday - Rules of Marriage

Wedded Wednesday is a collaboration
of married bloggers sharing their inspirations,
anecdotes, struggles and thoughts regarding
the amazing union of two separate people, as one.

Each marriage has it's own set of "rules" that the couple abides by. These are either rules that they've established from the dating stage, or rules that have evolved since the union of marriage...but we've all got them.

Mr. & Mrs. Lukie's Rules of Marriage:
  1. Behave as if your spouse were standing next to you, in all things you do. In other words, if something you are doing or saying would be inappropriate to do with your spouse watching or listening to you, don't do it.
  2. Do at least one nice thing for your spouse each day--no matter how large or small.

  3. Have a date night and stick to it. Only a dire emergency constitutes cancelling date night.

  4. Divide chores according to who has the skills and time to do it/them. Don't keep track of how many times you've taken the trash out in a row. Chances are, he's fed the dogs (or raked the leaves or mowed the lawn) more than you have. It all evens out.

  5. Have sex as often as you can, even when you don't feel like it. Having sex is like going to the gym...when you're tired & it's the end of the day, you just don't feel like going. But if you put your gym clothes on & drive to the gym, you will go in & work out, just because you're there and you may as well. Sex is the same way.

  6. Maintain daily rituals of connection. A kiss and a hug hello & goodbye. A phone call before bed or a "Good Morning!" text message (if your hubby works 24 hour shifts like mine). Praying before a meal. These are the things that help you to stay connected.

  7. Devote your full attention to one another when you're catching up on the days activities. No multitasking! You can spare 5 minutes of undivided attention to your spouse.

  8. Do not allow your marriage to run on "feelings." Marriage is a choice. This requires both spouses to choose to work hard on the marriage.

  9. Be the mature one and apologize first. (Not as easy as it sounds!) If both partners keep this in the forefront of their mind, someone is bound to be the more mature one & end the argument/disagreement much sooner than not.

  10. Absolutely, positively NO mention of the "D" word. And if you do use the "D" word in regard to your marriage, you must be 100% serious--ready to sign the papers & move out. It is not a joking matter, or something to be used as a threat to get your partner to act in a way that you want them to.

Do you have any "rules" in your marriage (or relationship, for the non-marrieds)?

"Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful." - Colossians 3:13-15

"So watch yourselves. If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him. If he sins against you seven times in a day, and seven times comes back to you and says, 'I repent,' forgive him." -Luke 17:3-4

"So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate." -Matthew 19:6


  1. #6 is a big one in our house, just because of hubby's job(s). He has unexpected hours and it's easy for us to disconnect when he isn't home much!


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