Friday, May 6, 2011

Promise Me

That when a woman in your life tells you she is pregnant...

...you won't make sarcastic comments about the weight gain, the aches & pains, the discomfort, and the inevitable body changes.

...you won't exclaim, "Life is over as you know it! Ha! Enjoy your freedom while it lasts, because you won't be getting it back anytime soon!"

...you won't chastise the choices she & her partner have made for labor & delivery, no matter how different those choices are from your own.

...you won't tell her she is either "so big!" or "so tiny!" for however far along she is.

...you won't tell her that she should kiss her old body goodbye, never to be seen again.

...you won't tell her that if she thinks sleep is cruddy right now, "just wait 'til that baby gets here!"

...you won't tell her that she doesn't win an award for not having an epidural, and to knock off the bravery and just do like millions of other women do, and go for the epidural.

...you won't tell her that you have NO idea WHY she isn't finding out the sex of her baby when that technology is available. 

...Or that she is driving you crazy with not finding out the sex of the baby.

...you won't tell her that she will have no time to shower, let alone go to the gym anymore, so she may as well give it up now.

...you will tell her that you are excited for her and cannot wait for her to experience all of the joys that pregnancy and motherhood will bring her.

13 comments:

  1. I love this, and I honestly want to ask people (when I hear them say such things about kids and childbirth, etc, and giving their experience) "soooo, WHY did you even have kids if you don't have anything positive to say about it?"

    Love you!

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  2. Amen! I don't understand the female mind, and I have one. Why we tend to chew up our own and spit 'em out, I'll never know! It is not pleasing to the Lord in ANY way! One thing being (pregnant) a Momma teaches you? How to let things roll off your back. I'm still learning this, but seriously, I've had a crash course in how not to be offended by offensive people. God uses Motherhood to change us. For the better, if we let Him. Blessings, sweet girl!

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  3. Ha! I like what Rebecca said!

    As someone who has been there and heard it all, I can tell you that a) you'll sleep again for 8 hours straight [especially with a ff hubby], b) you'll be able to work out everyday [with determination and commitment which YOU have] c) you WILL get your body back [tight stomach and all] and d) you will love motherhood...everyday you will fall more and more in love with your munchkin and wonder where all this love came from.

    I hated the phrase "just you wait..." and now everytime someone says it about having baby #2, I just laugh because they don't realize how cliche and unoriginal they sound!

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  4. Love this post! I couldnt agree more. I hear those things constantly and everytime I talk to the inlaws I'm always reminded how my life as I know it will be over soon. They even wrote that in my bday card. I now just respond that it will be even better once our little one gets here

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  5. I hope you have a Happy FIRST Mother's Day!!!!

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  6. Beware,the closer you get to the big day, you will hear every horror labor story out there. Just learn to space out and nod every once in awhile.

    Happy Mother's Day!

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  7. I'd love to hear your responses to some of these! Are you getting less patient, because I know I sure will!

    ITA Rebecca & Andrea's comments...
    I just can't believe people say these things, are they really that mindless and lacking in any other small talk?

    These are especially annoying...

    ...you won't tell her that she doesn't win an award for not having an epidural, and to knock off the bravery and just do like millions of other women do, and go for the epidural.

    ...you won't tell her that you have NO idea WHY she isn't finding out the sex of her baby when that technology is available.

    ...you won't tell her that she doesn't win an award for not having an epidural, and to knock off the bravery and just do like millions of other women do, and go for the epidural.

    ...you won't tell her that you have NO idea WHY she isn't finding out the sex of her baby when that technology is available.

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  8. I wish I could tell you it gets better but it really doesn't you just learn to tune it out. Happy mama's day to you Mommy to be :)

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  9. I promise you your life is going to change in ways you didn't expect...and you are so lucky and blessed to be able to experience such a wonderful gift. Your beautiful baby you created will remind you of that every day. And seeing your husband as a father will make you fall in love with him more than you ever thought you could. I promise you~ the best is yet to come!

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  10. Congratulations! I'm so happy for you. As a second-time mom, I find it's easy to talk about how much labor hurts - but only when I'm asked. I do hate the constant warnings about sleep deprivation that first-time moms get. Seriously, people would not stop bringing that up to my husband. Yes, the newborn days are crazy, but if you have a quiet and joyful heart, they can be peaceful and beautiful and SO amazingly joyful. And God gives amazing physical strength and grace for those trying times - the first night after Christian was born, I'd been awake for a day and a half, but I was so energized from the adrenaline of having a newborn that I barely noticed. I absolutely loved taking care of him all night long.

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  11. I love this! As someone who has never been pregnant, I don't always know what to say/not say to someone...although I can't imagine saying anything of these things.

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